Jen’s Half Cents: Supporting Patients by Supporting Families and Survivors of Intimate Partner Abuse

I’m a family man. I always have been. I tend to write in the evenings or at night and I like to do so sitting in bed. As I write this, my partner has dozed off next to me and her children are sleeping down the hall after a busy day of school and family time. I’m thinking about one colleague who had a health scare over the last couple of days (he’ll be ok) and the depth of emotion between worry and love is something that I can near physically feel. My sense of family is strong and the relationships I consider familial extend to a very select group of colleagues in the space of patient advocacy. I’ve often cited that sense of family as part of what keeps me happy in this work. That love is one I am fortunate to have and it’s something I like to remind folks of from time to time, in part, because this work is hard and paying witness to struggles comes with its own emotional toll and reminding colleagues we are driven to this work from a sense of justice and love is often…refreshing, reinvigorating.

A few years ago, at one of ADAP Advocacy Association’s first Fireside Chats, one of my most favorite industry partners, and one of the most brilliant people I’ve had the pleasure of knowing, raised the issue of intersections between the dual epidemics of HIV and substance use. Particularly, she focused on needing to raise awareness of long-term risks for those experiencing non-fatal overdoses, those intersections with infectious disease, and how public health programming would be better served with a more holistic approach to patient care, rather than the often-segmented or siloed environment we still have today. While more syringe services programs are adopting HIV and Hepatitis C testing and linkage to care activities and more HIV programs are offering more competent care for substance users, especially around medication assisted treatment, outside of these activities, there’s little being done to ease the high burden on patients to coordinate their own care across multiple providers or entities. National strategies and funding certainly prioritize referrals, but referrals aren’t the same as successful linkage, successful linkage isn’t the same as retention in care, and at the point of patient experience and meeting public health goals, those distinctions are important. I am of the somewhat unpopular opinion among some recipients and subrecipients that program metrics and grant awards should reflect these differences but that’s for another discussion.

My friend would move the discussion forward by talking about how powerful and moving testimony and advocacy from affected mothers and families, targeting these voices for education on the intersection of infectious disease and substance use, building coalitions would serve to advance the interests of both of these patient communities and especially so for patients living at the intersection of these conditions. As I was meeting with her in December of this year, I had to tell her, “I think about this conversation a lot.” And I do. Years later, this conversation pops up in my mind as I think about patient stories and priorities, different data about isolation as a predictor of substance use or how social supports are clear indicators in successful retention in care and viral suppression. We dedicate a massive chunk of behavioral health resources to ensuring patients have social supports precisely because having those supports is such a strong indicator of successful care. I often find myself thinking about the role families play in being a primary source of social support for many people, how ever we define family for ourselves. I think about this role of family when I assess intimate partner abuse data or read about how mothers experience legal abuse as a form of coercive control in custody situations. I think about it anytime we approach the issue of caregiver supports. I certainly thought about it last year when I wrote about how family courts and child welfare agencies are missed opportunities for linkage to care. I thought about the role of family and that conversation when a former co-worker was being stalked by the father of child at work and the employer failed to support or protect her. I thought about that conversation when recently asked to provide input on an academic institution’s midwifery committee and when a couple we’re friends with announced they’re going to start working to have another baby. I think about that conversation at every headline involving COVID and kids and how the financial supports extended in 2020 and 2021 reduced child poverty. I thought about that conversation while listening to a constituent impact panel on HIV criminalization in the state of Louisiana, how much patients rely on their families to advocate, navigate, support, and love them through what ever health challenges they may be facing. I think about that conversation when considering my own end of life planning and what I want for my family.

I found myself thinking again about that conversation and the need to better support families through public policy as one of many vehicles necessary for addressing the needs of people living with HIV, eliminating Hepatitis C, and tackling the substance use epidemic. I thought about that conversation last week as a bipartisan group of Senators introduced the Violence Against Women Reauthorization Act of 2022, after 3 years of failing to advance a reauthorization. As I read through the bill, I was happy to see funding for marginalized populations, including at-risk populations in Alaska and LGBTQI+ communities. I was happy to see Senators invest funding in directing a federal study on how parents alleging intimate partner violence are likely to lose primary custody over their children, already knowing how abusers leverage family court processes as a means of post-separation abuse is well-documented. I was happy to find a similar study on the association between intimate partner violence and substance use, specifically, how intimate partner violence increases the risk of substance use. I was disappointed to see a failure to more directly require family courts to be educated as to these issues because regardless of those study outcomes, families are weakened when abusers are able to leverage divorce proceedings as a means of further abusing their victims.

I think about all of these things when I think about what our advocate partners and funders are willing to take up as an issue worthy of their labor and dollars. While “mission creep” and maximizing our limited resources are certainly issues patient advocates and our funders must balance, we also have a moral and ethical calling to consider how those whose interests we seek to represent must also be represented holistically in the actions we take. More directly, those providers, patient advocates, and our funders should work to support public policies aimed at strengthening families and ending intimate partner violence on national and state levels. Today, we can do so by vocally supporting the long-overdue reauthorization of VAWA.